Akalain mong ang M.U., pwede rin palang maging malinaw na usapan.
As long as the set up is clear, expectations meter is controlled, feelings are in check, and both parties want the same thing -- nothing more, nothing less -- then it will all be fine and dandy. Take note that it should be a mutual understanding, a mutual decision.
Honesty from the very beginning is key. The problem with most pseudo-relationships is that they don't talk about the situation until it's already too complicated to sort out. Been there, done that.
Open relationships (I don't know how to call them anymore, really) only work in the short run though. There should be an expiry date. Once you start thinking long term, you're doomed. Get out and escape while you still have the chance.
I was lucky that I did not feel the need to run away.
I mentioned in a blog entry way back in September 2009:
"All relationships are temporary - it's just a matter of when and how they will end. But still, we have to treat them as if they're permanent. Never think of it as a waste of time, especially if we genuinely care for the other. Even if a relationship comes to a close unexpectedly, for sure we'll get and learn something out of it."
In this case, I knew exactly when and how it will end. Yet knowing that it's temporary didn't stop me from making the most out of it. I made a conscious effort to stay on top of things, to not get attached, to keep emotions intact -- and it was well worth it.
Those were some of the slowest (I felt like I got caught in a time warp), craziest (I did things I normally wouldn't do), and happiest months of my life.
It was fun while it lasted. No regrets.